THE THING
Here’s the Thing! Real Men provide for all of the needs of their children. This goes for their children when they are married or out of wedlock or when they are divorced. Real Men have no time for those dead beats who use all legal wrangling, lawyering and working the system to get out of paying their share for THEIR kids’ needs. That includes the low-lifes that rely on an incompetent court system (mostly run by gutless men) to help them fall through the cracks.
Real Men know that they have responsibilities when they shoot one past the goalie, so they step up and do whatever they can to help support that child. That little person is your responsibility and they start being your responsibility months before they arrive, up to and including their 21st birthday and beyond.
It is a lifetime ownership and commitment – so Man the hell up and do it!
Real Men provide financially for every aspect of their kids’ lives; from medical to educational, housing, clothing, food, and recreational. Real Men make sure the mother of the children does the same.
Real Men provide stability, care, kindness, emotional support, love and strength to their children. No excuses accepted. End of discussion!
At this point you should be in total agreement and if you are saying in your head – “Yes but …” you seriously need to be kicked in the gonads. If it is your child, you better flippen ‘man up’ and provide – because that’s what Real Men do.
THE REWARD
Maybe, just maybe, you may become a role model to your kids and the world and they will grow up to be better people and parents themselves.
Maybe, you’ll have learnt the meaning of the word sacrifice and putting another human being before yourself, thereby building character.
Maybe, you will be blessed with the love and respect of the mother of those children.
They will love you, if you provide for them.
You will be someone’s hero.
You will be an example of a ‘stand-up guy’ who teaches by what he does.
THE HOW TO
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Get a job and keep it. Make sure your kids have before you do.
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If you need to go hungry so they can eat, go hungry.
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If you need to work 3 jobs, work 3 jobs.
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If your relationship with their mother ends, they are still your kids and you are still responsible for providing for them. Do it. I don’t care what she did or didn’t do, it’s not about you and it’s not about her. It’s about the kids, provide for them. They are your responsibility.
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Kids don’t need luxuries and they don’t need to be spoilt, they just need to be provided for and you are the provider.
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Most importantly, children need your time. Women and children spell the word love – T I M E. If you spend and give your time, they will feel the love. Just be with them. When you give another human being attention, they cannot help but thrive.
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Having children is a massive responsibility. A responsibility I believe most young men cannot fathom. Is it tough? You bet, but you made them, you provide for them.
TROUBLE SHOOTING
- I do try but I don’t think my ex is playing ball.
Make sure she does. I always tell women to make sure that they use every legal angle to ensure a man provides for his kids. So, what’s good for the goose…
WISDOM
“Children shouldn’t have to sacrifice so that you can have the life you want. You make sacrifices so your children can have the life they deserve.” – Unknown